A Mom’s Letter To Her Daughter

In the wake of the horrible tragedy of the Rutgers student Tyler Clemente, a mom took to her blog and wrote a letter to her daughter. In essence her letter told her daughter that no social blunder, faux pas or other acts is going to impact your life forever. As we’ve all learned watching the media, you are a hot story one day and then someone else comes along, does something equally as stupid or embarrassing and suddenly nobody is talking it about. It all passes. Too bad this young man couldn’t see through his pain to realize this.

Anyway, it’s a great letter worth reading and if you have older children, worth sharing with them. Good job Vicky Bell!

Hello my girl,
I  wanted to say hi and tell you how much I miss you and that I hope your classes are going well and that you are having fun too.
But I also have to have a mommy moment-  bear with me here.  I won’t take long, and I won’t be saying anything I haven’t already said in one form or another,  but it is important.

You may or may not have heard about the NJ college student who killed himself last week because his room-mate had posted videotape of him having sex with another guy.  A terrible, senseless tragedy.

My mommy job requires that I remind you of two essential things:
One:
Nothing ruins your life forever. NOTHING.
Two:
Nothing ruins your life forever. NOTHING.

If that young man had only waited a couple of weeks nobody would have cared- he’d have gotten past it.  People have short memories- life would have gotten better, much better.  His parents and friends? They loved him prior to the tape- they would have loved him afterward too.  A few awkward moments and then life goes on.

But when you are young you don’t know that even the awkward moments are fleeting.  On this,  you just have to trust the old people.  Remember when you were really small and cried and cried over something?  Well,  it didn’t last.  That’s kind of what it’s like- awful things happen, you feel like there’s a rock in the pit of your stomach, somehow time goes by and it gets better.  I promise you, it ALWAYS gets better.

The students, a girl and boy, who were involved in the taping and posting– they are being charged with bias crime, invasion of privacy and possibly other things.  Their college life is over.  They will have to live with this death the rest of their lives– and their families are devastated.  What they did was so wrong- but also so kid-stupid.  Not to mention mean. And so their lives will be different forever- but even so- their families will love them and they will have time enough to hopefully live in such a way as to make meaning from their mistake.

To continue reading the post (and it’s worth it), click HERE.

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